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What therapy works best for PTSD




That is the question not answered by any psychological group or society.

My recommendation: Find a therapists blog on trauma. I have found these therapists on the cutting edge of the current wisdom for PTSD recovery.

An example: This Psychologist is a specialist for codependency, a trait many of us abused kids struggle with for life.

You can find one online. This guy healed from a terrible childhood and became a therapist to help others. What do the successful therapists use for therapies.

A therapist should say things that make us uncomfortable. Goods ones push us to reach out into that unknown area. Risk!

Second, find a blog like mine. Read and decide if the content is accurate and recommendations are worthwhile.

I would find a therapist who uses mindfulness in therapy. Acceptance and Committment Therapy and Dialectic Behavioral Therapy both are hybrid CBT therapies that use mindfulness to expedite healing.

Realize we heal ourselves, therapist give direction and hopefully great skills.

Ask if a therapist gives homework. If I were a therapist, everyone who walked through the door would have a focused breathing practice (meditation).

Homework would be to meditate for three minutes, twice a day, minimum. We will work on meditating ten minutes every session. In due time, meditating for twenty minutes will be a daily habit.

Get them moving, doing, taking action. Sedentary is closer to death, action closer to life.

If a client takes action to heal, victimhood dies. Being able to focus and let the noise of life go, benefits even the happiest person.

Next, pick a therapist who fits your personality.

I do not need a therapist who can inspire me, if you do, select wisely.

Do not be afraid to fire your therapist and select again. It is ok, they serve us, our healing outweighs their feelings.

Healing is a harsh journey, you have to have more courage than you think.

Do not think ptsd heals completely or you will be disappointed.

I am at my best when I focus on my effort and leave judgment alone.

Right now I am lost in my PTSD but I can still shine light on your path.



Why Do People Lie to Their Therapists? Here’s the Most Important Reason, by Far By Bella DePaulo, Ph.D



Ideally, psychotherapy offers people the opportunity to be completely honest about their lives, with little risk of being judged and plenty of opportunities to heal. But how honest are clients, really, in their sessions with their therapists?


In a new book, Secrets and Lies in Psychotherapy, Barry A. Farber, Matt Blanchard, and Melanie Love describe the results of what are perhaps the two most important studies ever conducted on lying in therapy. In the first study, 547 psychotherapy clients were shown a list of 58 topics and asked, for each one, if they had ever lied about it to their therapist. In the second, 798 therapy clients indicated whether they had engaged in more routine, ongoing deception about each of 33 topics.


The overall rates of lying were stunningly high. In the first study, 93% of the clients told at least one lie to their therapist. In the second, 83% of the clients said that they routinely lied about at least one topic, or actively avoided discussing it.


But why? Why would people go into therapy and then lie to their therapist?


In the second study, clients were asked to explain, in their own words, what made it hard for them to be honest about the topics they were lying about on an ongoing basis. Here are their answers:


Clients Lying to their Therapists: Most Commonly Reported Motives for Ongoing Dishonesty


61% Embarrassment or shame

27% I didn’t want this to distract from other topics

24% I doubt my therapist can help or understand

19% Practical consequences (e.g., legal problems, hospitalization)

18% It would bring up overwhelming emotions for me

16% My therapist would be upset, hurt, or disappointed

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