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18 Feb

Dissociation: inner dialogue with our different Parts

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My inner dialogue has multiple factions (parts), multiple goals, and a battle for supremacy.

Serious Childhood abuse leads to dissociation, sometimes to the brink of splitting.

They call this DID now, dissociative identity disorder or commonly known as multiple personalities.

Child sexual abuse is the usual culprit.

Some parts are stuck in past trauma, Frozen in time, scared to death.

The rest of us Abused kids do Not split into alters but have an accumulation of damaged parts surviving in the shadows.

Here are some of my internal parts, Jock, Fighter, Helper, Curious guy, Giver (compassionate), Doer, inner Critic, Ashamed part, Worrier, and Depressed part.

If you investigate the Internal Family System, identifying the different parts, then accepting them is the goal. (https://cptsdawayout.com/2017/12/27/35953/)

My inner jock (athlete) has confidence and is at ease performing in front of others, my abused part feels ashamed, flawed, isolating in the shadows.

How many parts live inside you?

What parts are dominant, more powerful?

Some parts have more power than other parts and that is a fluid environment that can change.

Healing is the journey that allows us to speak to the healthy current parts, allowing the damaged parts a much-needed reprieve.

Know which parts you are breathing life Into and powering up.

These parts are part of our Ego.

Look how quickly a trigger powers our traumatic parts.

Realize which parts are in charge.

We do have influence!
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2 Jul

Stuck Parts: Parts that Imitate who hurt you

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From Coping with Trauma Related Dissociation:

Usually their are parts of the personality that hold anger and rage that are unacceptable or very frightening to other parts.

Some may resemble people from the past who were abusing.

These parts shame, threaten, or punish other parts inside, or they may direct their anger to other people in the outside world.

Although the behavior of these parts can be quite frightening or shameful, as well as unacceptable, it is important for you to understand that these parts have good reason to exist and are representations, and thus not the same as the people who hurt you.

They originally developed to protect you by containing many distressful experiences of anger, helplessness, and sometimes guilt or shame.

Furthermore, their function often is to prevent other parts behaving in a way that, in the past, evoked fear or shame.

Over time it is important to appreciate why they exist, even though their “methods: that is, their behavior and attitudes, may not be acceptable.

Your fear and shame about me parts must be overcome in order for you to heal.

These parts like all parts of yourself, need to become part of an internal “team” that collaborate and represent you as the whole person and your own history.

And once they do so, you will be surprised at what tremendous help they will be to you.

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1 Jul

Stuck parts from childhood trauma

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From Coping with Trauma Related Dissociation:

People with dissociative disorder often have related problems of time distortions.

They experience time passing by much too slow or fast; perhaps more time has passed than they thought, or an hour seems like an entire day.

Some parts of the personality are often quite confused about where they are in space and time, believing they are still in the past.

When people with a dissociative disorder are alienated from their body, they may be insensitive to physical pain or lack sensation in parts of their body.

Some people report that they do not always always properly register heat and cold, cannot feel whether they are hungry or tired, or feel numb in their body.

Again, it is typically the case other parts of the self do feel the physical pain., the hunger, or other bodily sensations.

There are many different symptoms of depersonalization, but in every case it seems to be a way of avoidance or attempting to regulate overwhelming feelings or experiences.

Depersonalization symptoms may be temporary or chronic.

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My two cents: If you suffer from childhood abuse, stuck parts complicate recovery.

For me, anger was stuck in my childhood.

Having a violent narcissist as a father, prohibited me from ever expressing anger in his presence.

Do you have stuck parts?

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19 May

Stuck Parts 3: From Coping with Trauma Related Dissociation:

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Fight Parts

Some angry parts are stuck in a fight defense against threat.

They have the explicit function of protecting the individual by means of fight responses, either toward other people or towards parts inside that in some way evoke a sense of threat.

Fight parts often believe that they are strong, have not been hurt, and are capable of carrying out strong aggressive reactions to perceived threat or disrespectful behavior.

Often they view themselves as a tough child or teenager or a large strong man.

Ashamed Parts

Shame is a major emotion that maintains dissociation.

Some parts of the personality are especially avoided and reviled because they hold experiences, feelings,or behaviors that you, or some part of you have labelled as shameful or disgusting.

You will need to be especially empathetic and accepting toward these parts of yourself.

A central problem for people who have a dissociative disorder is that parts of the personality avoid each other and their painful memories and experiences, or they tend to have strong conflicts with each other.

In the literature this has been described as phobia of dissociative parts.

Parts typically feel fearful, ashamed, or repulsed by other parts.

In particular dissociative parts that function in daily life want as little as possible to do with dissociative parts that are fixed in traumatic experiences.

Parts stuck in trauma-time often feel abandoned and neglected by the parts that try to move on without them in daily life.

These ongoing inner conflicts can be painful.and frightening, and they cost a person with a dissociative disorder a tremendous amount of energy.

As we said before, all parts need to learn to accept and cooperate with each other.

After all, in order to adapt and be our best, we must learn to accept ourselves and all our aspects.

Only in acknowledgment and accepting are we able to make positive changes in ourselves.

However we are aware that getting to know yourself and working more cooperatively internally can be a long difficult process.

You cannot expect yourself to immediately function differently when parts have spent a lifetime avoiding each other or are in conflict.

Please remember that you will need much patience and self acceptance in this work and go at your own pace.

Remember to be empathic and accepting of yourself as awhile person.

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18 May

“Parts that Imitate who hurt you” From Coping with Trauma Related Dissociation:

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Usually their are parts of the personality that hold anger and rage that are unacceptable or very frightening to other parts.

Some may resemble people from the from the past who were abusing.

These parts shame, threaten, or punish other parts inside, or they may direct their anger to other people in the outside world.

Although the behavior of these parts can be quite frightening or shameful, as well as unacceptable, it is important for you to understand that these parts have good reason to exist and are representations, and thus not the same as the people who hurt you.

They originally developed to protect you by containing many distressful experiences of anger, helplessness, and sometimes guilt. or shame.

Furthermore, their function often is to prevent other parts behaving in a way that, in the past, evoked fear or shame.

Over time it is important to appreciate why they exist, even though their “methods: that is, their behavior and attitudes, may not be acceptable.

Your fear and shame about me parts must be overcome in order for you to heal.

These parts like all parts of yourself, need to become part of an internal “team” that collaborate and represent you as the whole person and your own history.

And once they do so, you will be surprised at what tremendous help they will be to you.

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