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The Pauses are the Doors

.Melanie Weidner, M.Div., is an artist, spiritual director, and workshop leader shaped by years of Quaker, contemplative, and mindfulness practice. Her work celebrates beauty, presence, self-reflection, compassion, and joy. –

I was not a good candidate for meditating, my friends believed an anxious, high strung Marty could never sit still, meditate.

My mind always raced, worried a lot and felt unworthy at his core from childhood abuse.

Meditating meant sitting still and facing my mind one on one.

PTSD was the only reason I found meditation, the reason I would never give up trying to heal.

Most people who try to meditate face similar challenges.

My developed willpower from surviving my dad, allowed me to fail over and over without quitting.

Meditation was the last option I had left for healing my Childhood PTSD.

So I created a visual model and realized, we always get lost during the pauses.

Thoughts entered my pauses, not when I was focused inside my nostrils with the inhales and exhales.

I focused intently on the pauses, exploring my inner world while my body was at rest.

Our bodies are calmest during the pauses.

Inhales and exhales take energy and make noises.

The pauses suspend inhales and exhales and the body is still, no movement, a perfect time to sense inside your body, your inner world.

We spend all our time on the external world, external stimulus, external desires.

Our inner world gets little or no attention.

We can fix this discrepancy while meditating.

Transitions are the pauses.

Start at lower right hand corner, inhale up the blue arrows.

To the first pause (green arrows)

Then exhale is followed by a pause, the same duration as the first pause



Trust we are exactly where we should be, in the exact situation that faces us today, no need to fix, correct or alter anything, just accept everything.



Mindset before meditating::

Trust we are exactly where we should be, in the exact situation that faces us today, no need to fix, correct or alter anything, just accept everything.

Can we tolerate accepting our weaknesses, flaws and unworthiness without trying to hide or deny them?

That means we do not have to accomplish or overcome anything or anyone.

We do not have to change anything for the next half hour, then we can go back to chasing pleasure.

That means our cognitive engine can rest for little while, thinking can rest, like a fast for the mind.

Now, we slow the breath and heighten our listening skill, searching for the tiniest sound.

Basic focus on the breath, meditation is simple.

What to look for on our journey.

Know Inhaling requires energy to expand the chest cavity, inflating the lungs like a balloon.

Exhaling requires less energy to release the carbon dioxide.

The pauses find the body at rest, no energy used, no movement.

This special calm I call suspended animation.

The perfect time to feel our inner world, anxiety, fear, tenseness, spasms, hot or cold sensations, etc.

Focus can expand during these calm pauses.

With each breath more pauses are available to deepen our journey.

The body is making no noise, exerting no effort during the two pauses.

Experienced meditators say these pauses can expand and help drop us below consciousness.

Our goal is to reach the left hemisphere, a place where words, dialogue, good and back or right or wrong do not exist.

The only time that is known is this present moment, the past and future do not exist here either.

Start small, simple and specific.

Master one breath while increasing our focus on the pauses.

Happy meditating.

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