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Poll: Millions in US struggle through life with few to trust By ALEXANDRA OLSON



June, 10, 2021

NEW YORK (AP) — Karen Glidden’s loneliness became unbearable during the coronavirus pandemic.

The 72-year-old widow, who suffers from vision loss and diabetes and lives far from any relatives, barely left her house in Champion, Michigan, this past year, for fear of contracting the virus. Finally vaccinated, she was looking forward to venturing out when her beloved service dog died last month.

It doesn’t help that her circle of trusted friends has dwindled to one neighbor she counts on to help her shop, get to the doctor and hang out.

“I feel like I’m in a prison most of the time and once in a while, I get to go out,” said Glidden, whose adult children live in California and Hawaii, where she was born and raised.

She is not alone in her sense of social isolation.

Millions of Americans are struggling through life with few people they can trust for personal and professional help, a disconnect that raises a key barrier to recovery from the social, emotional and economic fallout of the pandemic, according to a new a poll from The Impact Genome Project and The Associated Press-NORC Center for Public Affairs Research.

The poll finds 18% of U.S. adults, or about 46 million people, say they have just one person or nobody they can trust for help in their personal lives, such as emergency child care needs, a ride to the airport or support when they fall sick. And 28% say they have just one person or nobody they can trust to help draft a resume, connect to an employer or navigate workplace challenges.

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Lonely: is lonely a judgment?



Lonely can be a judgment. I have friends that seem to have it made, big house, nice car, money, career, etc.

They still feel lonely, emotionally unfulfilled, Lacking.

In many situations, not all, we compare our lives with others.

We may want the status and security of an executive career, that big house, country club membership or athletic skills to dominate our group.

Loneliness is a judgment in this situation. If we judge our world by what we lack, suffering will always be our partner.

Loneliness will become real.

All we have is this mundane moment. Think about that!

Nothing we can achieve or attain in the future will bring lasting happiness.

We can be happy right now, just as we are.

Happiness is a peaceful, internal way of being, living in the moment.

Equanimity is what the Buddhist label it.

Just think, we have the ability to shower ourselves with kindness.



Lonely thoughts grow into depression!

If we could look back on a bout with depression, we would find negative thoughts and emotions circling our subconscious for days.


Depression seems to be linked to expectations, judgments and negative emotions. We dissociate into the past or worry about the future.



We feel separate from something, someone or maybe life itself.



If we feel lonely, we are missing something.



Desire has crossed over to important need.



If this need is not met, loneliness can ensure. Depression is only a short distance away.


Watch the reality show “Alone”. They drop ten people off separately in a secluded spot on Vancouver Island. The one who can last the longest wins a pile of money.


Their minds are alone without any external stimulus for the first time except nature.



The isolation and seclusion drive most nuts within days. They did not have a soccer ball like Tom Hanks in “Castaway”.


Andy Dufresne (Tim Robbins) in “Shawshank Redemption” states there is a place inside your head where no prison exists, where no one can reach. Listening to the pure operatic music transported him outside those prison bars.


How have people like Victor Frankl and Nelson Mandela found inner peace and purpose in their harsh lives?



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