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What do you do when the person bullying you is your dad?
Many midwestern fathers wanted star athletes at all costs.
The end justified their means.
This could be labeled conditioned love.
Self-worth equals performance, you never reach worthy in their eyes.
Some mothers and daughters have their destructive dance through childhood also.
My father told me I needed to be twice as good as everyone else, so no one would question his coaching decisions.
Some moms and dads use their kids to fulfill their lost dreams or bring them adulation from parenting.
My family had discussions on how we looked to the world, and how we were judged by others.
The highly dysfunctional family strives to look perfect, they strain to present a positive image.
Not protecting the family’s secret of child abuse was a mortal sin.
I was afraid to report my father, I was a kid, and I was isolated without any support.
No child wants to be abandoned, we need our abuser to survive.
There is no escape, some of us lost the birth lottery.
My father tried to control my entire existence, he ignored my younger sister.
Narcissist value their kids differently, they need adulation and the kid who delivers gets the attention.
That attention brings anger, violence, and criticism, dad demanded perfection.
Their children battle to survive the traumatic situation.
I never thought what happened 60 years ago would be more powerful today than as a kid.
A soldier seems to never be able to forget or let the war go.
Trauma brings the past to life in our subconscious.
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