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From The Deep Heart:
“Conversely, sometimes a wave of emotion can be so strong that we are overwhelmed by it in the moment.
An emotional storm may need to pass before we are calm and clear enough to more intimately approach it.
In such cases, it is more useful to resource ourselves first.
This may mean focusing on an area of our body that feels peaceful and relaxed or turning our attention to the outer environment and doing something calming and grounding.
We can learn to move our attention back and forth (pendulation) from a hyperaroused inner state to a calm one, as well as take our difficult experiences in smaller doses (titration).
If an emotional state is too intense to bear, you can also experiment with placing your attention on its polarity or opposite.
Once it is in the foreground of your attention, let both emotional polarities coexist in your awareness.
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For example, sit with shame and innocence, or rage and the feeling of empowerment, and notice what happens.”
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Posted by rudid96 on July 25, 2022 at 9:51 pm
This is something I’m trying to work with at the moment. Tackling emotionally charged topics takes courage.
Posted by Marty on July 25, 2022 at 9:52 pm
Go slow and choose mildly upsetting at first
Then proceed to the tough stuff
Posted by rudid96 on July 25, 2022 at 9:56 pm
The hardest part about addressing charged topics is the dissociation. The body runs away (so to speak), and the mind shuts down. I know many others have spoken of this phenomenon. It’s like being thrown into a black hole. One can only wait until it passes and I can feel my arms and legs again.
Posted by Marty on July 25, 2022 at 9:57 pm
Mine piss me off now, not afraid
I want revenge
A different attitude
Resentment is my emotion
It feels like I am reliving the event
Posted by rudid96 on July 25, 2022 at 9:59 pm
Maybe one of the differences here is your tormenters are no longer living?
Some of mine still are here. I do the best I can to navigate, but it can be challenging.
Posted by Marty on July 25, 2022 at 10:00 pm
Oh I have some alive
The biggest betrayal blocks me and refuses to explain why