Brainstorming with my daughter



My daughter has a degree in child psychology. Brainstorming with her for solutions, we both agree I have done enough therapy.

In childhood, our nervous system was impacted physically, not only some of its organs but synapses and other connectors.

So neurotransmitters are the concern, serotonin levels could be low.

As she lives with me, her opinion is that depression is more prominent than PTSD symptoms right now.

I have lost purpose and a desire to be around people.

It is difficult for my kid to see me this way.

I strive to improve but results are not in my control.

Meditating or therapy will not fix these deficiencies.

Wow, this would be a miracle.

Any thoughts.




4 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by 7oakley on July 19, 2021 at 5:48 pm

    Wouldn’t that be something if it was physical. I am glad you have your daughter to brainstorm with. I am in your corner.
    (I used to be able to post to your site, and now that I have created an account with WordPress, today was a real challenge, if it will even do that.

  2. Hi Marty,

    I don’t know if it’s ok to reply to these emails, but in case it is…

    I have also lost purpose and a desire to be around people. I’ve been in therapies of all sorts for twenty years without results (because what else can one do but try to heal?) and am also tired of poking at my trauma.

    But I’ve also learned a little bit that I hope might be of some use to you.

    I don’t think it’s quite as simple as low serotonin levels. The brain is exceptionally complex. Rather, our social responses formed in response to hostility from people we needed to bond with for our survival. How we feel about ourselves and others – those synapses are wired all wrong. And the best way to create new synapses is by direct experience and repetition.

    Those of us with C-PTSD don’t understand how to get satisfaction from being with others or regulate our own overwhelming feelings for the same reason that a person without experience can’t walk into an advanced class in a foreign language and understand what’s being said. We don’t have the groundwork.

    I believe that people with C-PTSD need a different kind of relationship… the foundational relationship we didn’t get during our formative years. To overwrite the neural connections that were formed in response to trauma.

    I don’t know what this relationship needs to look like. I know that some very lucky people have found it in therapy (if you haven’t already, you may want to look up Carolyn Spring’s blog about her experiences with C-PTSD). I am… trying. I have found an exceptionally patient person who doesn’t get too close and doesn’t leave. She doesn’t assume that I understand friendship or that she understands me. For a long time, we just talked. Now, occasionally, I spend time near her. It seems to be gradually calming something within me. The formless, pointless sense of dread and shame that I carry is lighter. Sometimes more than others, but the direction is positive, overall.

    Anyway, that’s all I wanted to say. From what I’ve seen, I think connection is key. A patient, low-stimulus, safe relationship with friend, partner, dog, therapist… whoever can accept you as you are, patiently and calmly with curiosity, and just be a constant.

    I hope it was ok to share this. I really appreciate what you share. It makes me feel less alone.

  3. Thanks for the effort

    Hope this works

    What a journey we have

  4. Thanks for the wisdom

    I agree with you

    It is complex and doing tests now a days can detect and recommend specific anti depressants or deficiencies

    If nothing else I need to eliminate this option

    I will have to check out that blog

    Thank you

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