Inner Critic Work

Inner voices and the inner critic are the focus of my recovery now.

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Old habits like self shaming, having a critical relationship with myself, and self sabotage are at the core of my PTSD.

Simple phrases like, We are mature now, We are safe, We are worthy, We are loved, calm the wounded child.

I was abused in childhood not flawed, not unworthy, and not damaged at my core.

After a week of work on my inner voices, glimpses of value and acceptance have appeared.

With all the healing work done in the last decade, my inner critic is the piece that fuels my PTSD.

Worthlessness springs from these inner voices, they are the culprit.

On my healing journey, I improved in small increments, using many therapies and techniques.

Childhood PTSD presents the greatest trauma challenge for a therapist, it is not a single event that happened after the brain developed.

Childhood Trauma is like an octopus entwined around our brain development, looking from the inside it is hard for us to determine what is mind and what is trauma.

Our inner critic is formed before we become aware, before some parts of the brain develop to handle trauma efficiently.

The inner critic is part of us, so we need to soothe him and make him safe and secure first.

This is the way out of survivor mode.


14 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by rudid96 on June 13, 2021 at 3:53 pm

    My thoughts are that this post is spot on! How true – “Our inner critic is formed before we become aware before some parts of the brain develop to handle trauma efficiently” Untangling the intrinsic, core belief that our abuser was more knowledgable and knew more is a gargantuan life-long task. Recovery leads one to the false belief that the ego has distanced from the trauma. My thoughts are that one is only a trigger away. That’s why a sustained practice is imperative.

  2. Rudid96

    The inner critic is present not a ancient memory

    Inner critic is alive now

    I tried destroying him then realized he is part of me

    Use theses phrases whenever the inner critic surfaces

    We are worthy
    We are safe
    We are loved
    We are fine


    Like I said I am not flawed at my core

    That inner voice was trying to protect me

    Now his services are not needed

  3. Posted by Deb on June 13, 2021 at 4:04 pm

    Thank you for this, I’ve never looked at it this way before.

  4. Posted by Sara on June 13, 2021 at 4:05 pm

    Yes to all of this! Your description of the octopus feels so accurate.

  5. Posted by Deb on June 13, 2021 at 4:05 pm

    Oh wow, I’ve been trying forever to leave comments on your site. I think this is the first time my comment went through!

  6. My insecurities and fears are given great power when I believe my inner critic

    Think if all the worthless and failure thoughts that proliferate our minds

    We worry and doubt because of the inner critic

    Our behavior is influenced by our inner critic

    We let our inner critic narrow life

    I will not relinquish anymore without a battle

    I have done affirmations, gratitude and giving

    The inner critic is not detained by these practices

  7. Cool

    WordPress has these new block editor things

    I like the old format

    I must be a curmudgeon

  8. Posted by Deb on June 13, 2021 at 4:09 pm

    I feel like the odd man out who’s finally be allowed to join the cool kids at school! I don’t know why all my other comments didn’t make it through. I’ve been reading your blog for the longest time. I like how you put things. I like that your posts are short and sweet. You get right to the point.

  9. We are glad to hear your voice

    Responses make my blog come alive

    I thought I was an expert on ptsd

    When I have no answers for my trauma it does not seem so

    But I usually find another way out

    This journey is not linear

    Lots of bumps and setbacks

  10. Posted by rudid96 on June 14, 2021 at 2:46 pm

    Thank you for the reply. I think C-PTSD messes with the ability to absorb and utilize wisdom. In the past, I’ve read the words of your suggested mantra; “We are worthy
    We are safe, We are loved, We are fine” and at the first trigger, those words evaporate. Today, in the here and now, I come a little closer to absorbing those words. Now if they will continue to resonate in the face of being triggered, that would really be something!

  11. Rudid96

    I have healed once but never calmed this demon

    It impacts my ego and my self worth

    It is the soul of my Ptsd
    It is a created damaged soul of childhood trauma

    We are safe

    For me I felt shame from my college betrayal

    It reinforced my abusive childhood

    The phrase we are safe

    Shows me no real danger existed

    Especially since I did nothing wrong

    My inner critic takes blame for others behavior

    That’s insane but what I have done my whole life

    I am stopping it as well as I can

  12. My inner critic can get pretty vicious. It’s the kind that would tell me that even if I create an imaginary girlfriend, she’d reject me.

  13. We know nothing different

    But it is bs and a mirage

    We are perfect as our true self

    We are just damaged

  14. So true. The inner critic can cause us to shine or perish. It’s very important to heal if it’s wounded.

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