A rerun: 5 Ways Anger is Not Like Other Emotions By Jonice Webb

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Anger is not just any old emotion. It’s special.

In fact, it’s so special that a 2017 survey by the Mental Health Foundation of 2000 people found that 28% are sometimes worried about the level of anger that they feel.

First, let’s outline what makes anger different from other emotions, and then we’ll talk about how you can use this information to become happier and healthier in your life.

* It’s Motivating: Anger’s purpose is to push you to protect yourself. Anger gives you energy. It’s activating, and it drives you to engage, not withdraw, as most other emotions do.

* It Never Stands Alone: Anger is always a result of feeling something else. You feel hurt, marginalized, overlooked, targeted, mistreated or vulnerable. Anger isn’t just an emotion, it’s a constellation of emotions. There are always layers of feelings underneath it, feeding it.

* It Seeks a Target: Other emotions can simply be. Anger cannot. Like an arrow shot from the bow, it looks for a target. This is what makes anger so easy to misdirect. It may erupt at the wrong person, in the wrong way and at the wrong time so very easily.

* It Can Be Turned Inward or Outward: Sometimes directing our anger at its true target can be acutely uncomfortable, and sometimes we aren’t aware of the true target. This is when we are at risk for turning our anger inward, directing it at ourselves.

* It’s Capable of Damaging Your Health: Research has shown that anger prone individuals and people who express their anger as rage are more at risk for heart attacks and cancer.

Anger is a powerful, protective, complex emotion.

Yes, it has potential to do great damage.

But used properly, it also has potential to help you mightily.“

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My two cents: My PTSD emotions have changed while trying to heal.

At first fear and anxiety ruled my life, erupting triggers overpowered any cognitive defense.

Anger was rarely used until I calmed my triggers exploding, not until the fear subsided did my resentment and anger surface.

When I am suffering, resentment and anger want a prominent place in my thoughts.

It is the daily ongoing battle of PTSD , the war that I have been waging since childhood.

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2 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by rudid96 on June 13, 2021 at 3:19 pm

    I find myself having to deny my anger. No longer a child, the time to speak out and get help has passed. Outsiders simply see an elderly parent. The behaviors of this narcissistic, borderline parent haven’t lessened with time. The single-mindedness has increased. Complain, speak up and I appear unreasonable, angry, whiny, unempathetic. Though implementing measures to reduce daily servitude helps every encounter is an opportunity for marginalizing and devaluing. I’m locked into a ‘Catch 22’ scenario. Giving the abuse a voice is met with disbelief and reproof. Continuing to hide it and the rage fills my inner space. There is no peace when the Narcissist remains in your life.

  2. My challenge is that inner voice, the critic

    Anger will dissipate when the inner critic is calmed

    My opinion and focus now

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