Images we create in childhood



From the book “Mastery of Love”

We are afraid to be punished, but later we are also afraid of not getting the reward, of not being good enough for Mom or Dad, sibling or teacher.

The need to be accepted is born.

Before that, we don’t care whether we are accepted or not. People’s opinions are not important. They are not important because we just want to play and we live in the present.

The fear of not getting the reward becomes the fear of rejection. The fear of not being good enough for someone else is what makes us try to change, what makes us create an image.

Then we try to project that image according to what they want us to be, just to be accepted, just to have the reward.

We learn to pretend to be what we are not, and we practice trying to be someone else, just to be good enough for Mom, for Dad, for the teacher, for our religion, for whatever.

We practice and practice, and we master how to be what we are not. Soon we forget who we really are, and we start to live our images.

We create not just one image, but many different images according to the different groups of people we associate with.

We create an image at home, an image at school, and when we grow up we create even more images.



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