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“Find an experience that is pleasant: looking at a sunrise, feeling the smooth fur of a cat, holding a warm cup of tea, or any other such simple thing.
Practice moving the attention between the object and the pleasant feeling it elicits.
Shift your attention between the object of pleasure (the visual image, feeling of warmth or softness) and the pleasurable feeling it evokes.
Practice allowing the attention to settle within the experience of pleasantness without adding attachment.
If the desire for more arises, notice that attachment.
Ask yourself—what is this feeling of attachment?
Does attachment increase the pleasure, or decrease it?”
Many people will recognize attachment by a characteristic feeling of contraction or separation.
How do you notice attachment to pleasure as distinct from a simple experience of pleasure?”
My two cents: Let’s explore our attachments to approval.
How real is others approval. Kind of abstract and biased.
How permanent?
How much pleasure, how much happiness, do we derive?
Approval can disappear, actually turn to criticism, instantly.
Look at our cancel culture.
How do we feel then? We have to know approval is hollow at some level, but I sure crave some.
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Posted by rudid96 on February 17, 2021 at 3:35 pm
Reflecting on one’s own “Attachment to approval” is powerful. Recognizing that a large portion of my personal anxiety is connected to this feed-me monster. Satiating this need is impossible & leads to unfulfilling choices at best and living a purposeless life. I realize my most recent anxiety is swirling around this very need. Time to pause, breathe, and refocus.
Posted by Marty on February 17, 2021 at 4:05 pm
Fulfilling desire does not extinguish that desire
It only craves more
More intensity then more often
Maybe it ends in addiction
I know I was addicted to approval
A coach who appreciated me got more from me than the critical manager
Posted by Marty on February 17, 2021 at 4:16 pm
Where you been Rudid96
I worry about you
Posted by rudid96 on February 20, 2021 at 12:29 am
Hey, Mindful Marty thanks for your concern. Been digging out of the mess my N parent caused. Always cleaning up after the mess. Been following every one of your posts and trying to follow your lead. Your transparency and sharing life thru the ups and downs really helps normalize walking thru real life.
Posted by Marty on February 20, 2021 at 2:19 am
This is our real
Life and it’s nuts at times
But we navigate not with a smile but we get up and try
We try
It separates us
I have tried when I knew trying was hopeless