Stuck Parts 3: From Coping with Trauma Related Dissociation:



Fight Parts

Some angry parts are stuck in a fight defense against threat.

They have the explicit function of protecting the individual by means of fight responses, either toward other people or towards parts inside that in some way evoke a sense of threat.

Fight parts often believe that they are strong, have not been hurt, and are capable of carrying out strong aggressive reactions to perceived threat or disrespectful behavior.

Often they view themselves as a tough child or teenager or a large strong man.

Ashamed Parts

Shame is a major emotion that maintains dissociation.

Some parts of the personality are especially avoided and reviled because they hold experiences, feelings,or behaviors that you, or some part of you have labelled as shameful or disgusting.

You will need to be especially empathetic and accepting toward these parts of yourself.

A central problem for people who have a dissociative disorder is that parts of the personality avoid each other and their painful memories and experiences, or they tend to have strong conflicts with each other.

In the literature this has been described as phobia of dissociative parts.

Parts typically feel fearful, ashamed, or repulsed by other parts.

In particular dissociative parts that function in daily life want as little as possible to do with dissociative parts that are fixed in traumatic experiences.

Parts stuck in trauma-time often feel abandoned and neglected by the parts that try to move on without them in daily life.

These ongoing inner conflicts can be painful.and frightening, and they cost a person with a dissociative disorder a tremendous amount of energy.

As we said before, all parts need to learn to accept and cooperate with each other.

After all, in order to adapt and be our best, we must learn to accept ourselves and all our aspects.

Only in acknowledgment and accepting are we able to make positive changes in ourselves.

However we are aware that getting to know yourself and working more cooperatively internally can be a long difficult process.

You cannot expect yourself to immediately function differently when parts have spent a lifetime avoiding each other or are in conflict.

Please remember that you will need much patience and self acceptance in this work and go at your own pace.

Remember to be empathic and accepting of yourself as awhile person.


2 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by michaeldepth on May 19, 2020 at 9:29 pm

    Very well put! For me getting to accept the parts of me that I had rejected was the hardest one of them all.

  2. It is a process

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