Pixabay: Pexel
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Excerpt from “There are No Others: Accepting the Reality of Aloneness”
“Aloneness in and of itself is not a painful thing.
The reason you associate pain with aloneness is because it was pain that brought you out of your aloneness and into the illusion of company.
Regardless of whatever the reason was, at some point in your early years you came to the conclusion that who you are is wrong.
This belief is the pain I’m speaking of.
To return to your aloneness you must first encounter the pain that took you out of it.
Pain is the gatekeeper of your awakened self.
When you rest as your true self, your pain will eventually disappear.
If you want to say goodbye to this pain for good, then identifying the source of your pain will be needed.
The package (belief) that this pain comes in is different for everyone.
Identifying this package is the first step, allowing the pain inside of it to envelop and destroy you is the next one.
If you can be destroyed then you should be destroyed.
Let it happen.
Only what is untrue in you can be destroyed.
The core belief that’s protecting your false sense of self is painful because it’s desperately trying to hold together the pieces of a fragmented identity.”
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Posted by marandarussell on January 7, 2020 at 6:43 pm
I don’t mind solitude at all (love it often), but find isolation terrifying. To me, they are very different things.
Posted by Marty on January 7, 2020 at 7:06 pm
Please expound
Posted by marandarussell on January 7, 2020 at 8:02 pm
Not sure it is easy to explain my thought process, but I’ll try. To me, solitude is something that is chosen. Isolation is something that is not chosen or is forced on us. For instance, I love having lots of time alone during the day while my husband is at work, but also love knowing he will eventually come home and even if we don’t talk much and do our own things in different rooms of the house much of the time, it is comforting to know he is always there if I need him. Isolation to me would be if there wasn’t anyone there as a backup if I needed them.
Posted by Marty on January 7, 2020 at 9:03 pm
I understand
Very clear
I agree