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Complex PTSD: From surviving to thriving
What follows is a list of some of the most common developmental arrests that occur in Cptsd.
You may find that you experience a diminishment or absence of these key features of healthy human being.
Typically, survivors will vary on which and how many of these arrests relate to them.
Factors affecting this are your 4F type, your childhood abuse/ neglect pattern, your innate nature and any recovery work that you have already accomplished.
Self-acceptance
Clear sense of identity
Self-Compassion
Self-Protection
Capacity to draw comfort from relationship
Ability to relax
Capacity for full self-expression
Willpower & Motivation
Peace of mind
Self-care
Belief that life is a gift
Self-esteem
Self-confidence
My efforts to nurture myself in these arrested areas of development were limited and spoiled in early recovery by a feeling of resentment.
“Why do I have to do this?” was a common internal refrain.
Resentment that should have been directed toward my parents often boomeranged onto me and spoiled or thwarted my efforts at self-nurturance.
Thankfully ongoing recovery work helped remedy this resentment. It taught me to practice self-care in a spirit of giving to a child who needed and really deserved to be helped.
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