Do we ever know?



We make many judgments about the world and how we fit into it.

Our “Ego” keeps score how we rate in our circle of contact.

When we walk into a room of people, our “Ego” assesses the hierarchy. We feel superior to some and beneath a few.

Life destroys some of these myths for us. When Anthony Bourdain hangs himself, my evaluation system crumbles.

My judgment of Anthony is completely wrong.

How could someone who had it all, talent, celebrity, money, brains, writing skills and happiness, hang themselves.

Oh wait, someone I thought was happy, committed suicide in a gruesome way.

Still, I ask myself, what could lead this talented man to hang himself.

He sure seemed to have it all!

Life seems happier, easier for some, maybe that judgment is inaccurate.

Hard not to compare our life to others, but easy to let that comparison go with practice.



5 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by jeanetteirene on August 28, 2019 at 3:50 pm

    Thank you for this reminder!!! I have been stressing about next Monday. Next Monday, my book that I wrote, “Journey to a Safe Harbor, A mind, body and spiritual healing of loss, PTSD and addiction”, is going to be Book of the Day on Online Book Club, but I had to give my social media links to help the hype. I have been so worried about people’s judgement of me …… you know ….. the people that know me …… that are on my social media links. Yesterday, I figured out a way to deactivate my Facebook link, temporarily. I was going to ride the deactivation till Tuesday. But I am trying to get courage to let it run, and then hold feeling proud of the work I have done and the story I told with huge honesty. I’m feeling very anxious to undo the Deactivate, by Sunday. This post helped a great deal to bolster my courage. Thank you.

  2. Thanks Jeanette

    Giving can stretch our boundaries

    You courage to not give up, to heal, then share with others has helped many

    Now an opportunity to reach a bigger audience has appeared

    Opportunity is fickle. We never know if it will appear again in the same way

    Here are my feelings. I have flaws, scars from my childhood, voids of certain experiences, but unworthiness does not even have a foothold.

    Nothing anyone says can touch our inner being

    You and I are perfect and on this journey together

    Some will disagree but that is the price for anything worthwhile

    This is your passion

    Go for it

    Happiness for doing this work is internal

    Trust your guide

  3. Excuse my mind but it brings forth more ideas

    Look how far you have come.

    Our PTSD, our trauma is the best at spotting potential issues, problems, what if’s

    We do not give the positive outcomes the same odds

    I can tell you right now it will be a success

    This does not define you

    This is what u did and how you wrote about it

    This is not who you are

    No one can impact that

    And good luck

  4. Posted by jeanetteirene on August 28, 2019 at 5:06 pm

    Thank you, Marty, for this insightful reply. With this and your messages, I am heading now to facebook to un-deactivate my account. I will open to this scary experience, and I hope it will benefit someone …… which is why I wrote the book, anyway. It is less about me, than a story to inspire others to heal. Thank you……..

  5. Enormous benefits when we take risks for the right reasons

    Sacrificing are a gee

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