Opening up to what scares us!

Thoughts linked to negative emotions or past traumatizing events, arouse our fear, and our fight or flight mechanism (adrenal stress response).



We have great resistance facing these fears. In fact human nature chases pleasure and avoids the awkward.



These fears bring anxiety, triggers, flashbacks, hypervigilance, nightmares, memory loss, mental confusion, and panic.



What is the solution?






We visualize our heart as a butterfly net, catching that scary thought, feeling only the body sensation. Absorb what our body has to teach us without thought. We observe our inner worlds reaction.



Our inner world can be a friend, our nervous system a calming companion.


Surrendering like this is safe. We are focused on the breath until thoughts fade.



As the scary memory enters our focus, we catch this fear, surrender to it, expose our open heart to understand it.



What we resist, persists. Surrender to your fears with an open heart not a confused mind.

6 responses to this post.

  1. Thank you! Chasing our butterflies sounds more fun than feeling them flying around inside us. It can be and adventure!
    Thank you

  2. Thank you also

    We all can strive to be more present more open more willing to take action

  3. Posted by Paging Mrs Zen on October 19, 2018 at 6:53 pm

    What a wonderful exercise. A visual to go with leaning into an emotion or tonight. I will try this Marty.

  4. A daily exercise until it becomes habit

    Sooner or later our
    Mind will learn to let go and come to this moment

    We are not supposed to follow the noise aimlessly and waste our lives

    Mindfulness is about constant awareness

    First about our inner world

    We can live safe, cautious without undertaking challenges or understand what holds us back.

  5. Posted by caroeardley on January 8, 2019 at 6:58 pm

    Not sure where you stand on this subject, Marty, and I mean NO disrespect, but one way that seems to work to for many people – including me although I am still on my journey – is practising EFT and, more especially, Matrix Reimprinting.

    I do like to meditate for peace usually in Nature, and I do practice Tai Chi which is a kind of moving meditation, but when I’m triggered, or when I want to put a trauma ‘to bed’I find EFT & MR are reallyhelping me. ~I freely admit that I’m not very skilled at sitting meditation.

    These techniques are not necessarily a quick fix, but it is amazing how you just never think about trauma that you resolve using these methods…just doesn’t enter your conciousness any more…

    I’m willing to help anyone who wants more info or to try it…and if this offends you, Dear Marty, please just delete my comment. I think your work is awe-some .

    Peace be upon us all

  6. Thank you for your input

    There are many ways to improve and heal

    Good for you to find something’s that work for you

    Taking action, a good attitude and having courage are needed skills

    You have those

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