Why do we judge ourselves so harshly?


Why is it easy to be kind to others, difficult to bring kindness to our own doorstep.



Empathy and kindness flow freely for others, trickles down to my pond.



Why do we judge ourselves so harshly?



I do not recognize my harshness until someone chides me, be easy on yourself. My expectations are extremely high, rejection, loss or shame cuts deep.



It takes special awareness to accept kindness from myself, obtaining more kindness is problematic.    I can give volumes of kindness, easily to others, this level of kindness is never granted or experienced personally.




We get lost in the confusion, our ego leads the judgment machine.





Self love needs daily practice  until it becomes a strong habit.





I find this present moment gives me resolve, gives me perspective.




Thinking of the past haunts us, worrying about the future robs us, and judging condemns us.



Know that kindness is available, it is just hidden.

3 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by Paging Mrs Zen on June 22, 2018 at 3:36 pm

    Imagine how different our existence would be if we learned the importance of self care and self love as a child? I’ve learned, after years of being my own worst and harshest critic, how to be gentle, kind and forgiving to myself. And in doing so, I’ve been become more gentle, kind and forgiving of others. It seems obvious now, but that wasn’t how I was raised nor were my parents raised that way. If you invest in loving yourself, loving others falls into place.

  2. Thanks for the response. You have changed your life with your practice and actions. Hopefully someone will be inspired.

    Self care or self love as a child, we learn from our caretakers. Look at Forest Gump, his best friend, the beautiful girl neighbor, raised in abuse from her father. Forest was mentally challenged but his mother supported, loved him.

    She said you can be anything you want to be.

    Look how difficult life is for foster kids, who teaches them self love.

    For me, criticism was the only meal served and that is void of self love.

    After meditating and healing the first time, I thought healing was permanent.

    I made friends with my nervous system and my fight or flight mechanism calmed down.

    But loving kindness, inner peace, self love was a stranger.

    Now I make a habit of giving self love every time I sit.

  3. Posted by Paging Mrs Zen on June 22, 2018 at 7:50 pm


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