Success or Failure: Why Judge


“Success seems to be largely a matter of hanging on after others have let go.”


William Feather
My two cents: How do we judge success or failure? Could there be bias in our judgment?


I thought playing professional baseball would bring lasting happiness. My insane dedication and exhaustive practice brought anxiety, pressure and fatigue.


Success and failure were displayed on an electronic scoreboard. We were treated differently if we won or lost. It was conditioned love.



We were valued for winning, trashed for losing by managers, peers, sports writers and fans. If baseball was everything, life was extremely narrow, success was critical for happiness.



The thrill of victory did not bring happiness but the agony of defeat brought depression.



Look at the extreme importance we place on things we do, not who we are.



Happiness is an internal way of living compassionately, openly in this present moment.



Let judgments like success and failure fade, place all effort on being empty and present, living fully.

4 responses to this post.

  1. Marty I absolutely LOVE this! It’s so true! Success is a personal triumph anyways — and it really comes when we learn to let go of outside “expectations” and live according to our own book of happiness and presence! Big love to you, Xx

  2. Thank you for the gratitude.

    Our attitude impacts so much of life. Most of our failures are, well do we see failure where failure may not exist.

    I was on a ptsd discussion board for a year. Not healed and still triggered at times, I always professed we can heal by daily work. The victims attacked me in groups.

    I read, practiced and shared some of the things on my blog. It was not received well.

    I thought my experience a total failure and the emotional abuse had an impact.

    A couple months later, I started this blog. I had control of the creative space.

    Then I realized, those attackers strengthened my resolve and skill. To post on that board I had to believe in what I was saying because it was going to be challenged.

    Being attacked verbally did not intimidate me in the least now.

    Healing takes some of the same skills. When we meditate and heal it is on the inside.

  3. Posted by Paging Mrs Zen on May 3, 2018 at 2:26 am

    So well written Marty. A really great example you gave actually.

  4. Thank you

    I have walked the path I recommend and continue everyday

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