“Some dissociative parts of the personality, living in trauma time, may experience the same emotion no matter the situation, such as fear, rage, shame, sadness, yearning and even some positive ones just as joy.
*
Other parts have a broader range of feeling. Because emotions are often held in certain parts of the personality, different parts can have highly contradictory perceptions, emotions, and reactions to the same situation.”
*
This explains many feelings, emotions, and doubts about the unknown haunting us at times.
*
Awareness and discovering the inner world may help, tremendously.
Posted by jeffssong on April 24, 2012 at 2:54 pm
“Some dissociative parts of the personality, living in trauma time, may experience the same emotion no matter the situation, such as fear, rage, shame, sadness, yearning and even some positive ones just as joy.” But this MAY be overcome when YOU (the adult being, host, etc.) begin ‘counseling’ your inner son (or daughters). Helping them to understand their ‘new lives’ – and helping them through the issues.
As hosts we often forget: it is our tasks to love them, embrace them, hug them – and help ‘them’ over their own issues – just like an adult would any human child. With love and patience and a lot of understanding – or at least trying to – in order to love and forgive (if YOU, the host, feel ‘rage’ against them). Takes a long time. But YOU are their primary ‘counseler’ aka therapist – or, like us, you ‘make’ one over time.
Posted by Marty on April 24, 2012 at 3:04 pm
excellent excellent response. Exploring our inner world below the ego is how we connect with our parts. They are us and a loving kindness approach opens up and allows them to,come forward to now, whole again.
We are not broke we have parts stuck and we do not know ourselves at all.
We know the ego and all about imoermanent things having nothing to do with the real us or living fully.
And yes Jeff, we are the primary counselor. Even if you have the greatest counselor in the world they can not go inside and do the work we have to do to heal. It is not a spectator sport and we waste life as long as we dissociate and ignore who we are.
Not who we have created out of our trauma. Takes action to do what Jeff says, actually it is mental action using mindfulness and spending time alone with our mind/body to know and repair us.
Posted by Looking Back at 2011 #SYL12 « From A Whisper To A Roar on July 22, 2012 at 9:23 am
[…] Updated: – – More Coping with Trauma Related Dissociation! (ptsdawayout.com) […]