Psychologist, anxiety treatment specialist and author, Edmund J. Bourne, Ph.D, defines Self Talk and how it works:
It is so automatic and subtle you don’t notice it or the effect it has on your moods and feelings. It appears in telegraphic form- one short word or image (”Oh no!) contains a whole series of thoughts, memories, or associations.
Anxious self-talk is typically irrational but almost always sounds like the truth. Negative self-talk perpetuates avoidance. Self-talk can initiate or aggravate a panic attack.
Negative self-talk is a series of negative bad habits. (You have to reprogram your brain to say helpful uplifting confident talk to remove the negative thoughts. Read about how women with anxiety are especially prone to negative self-talk and negative thoughts about themselves.)
Posted by kaitlots on January 16, 2012 at 11:39 pm
Marty, you said it best here: “Anxious self-talk is typically irrational but almost always sounds like the truth.” It totally sounds like the truth (at the time) and thats the draw-in for me.
Thank you for these posts! I forget I have this learned negative thought behavior, I need to unlearn it, or learn to be positive, through practice. I’ve been thinking a certain way for 30 years, so it is not going to be perfect over night. 🙂
Posted by Marty on January 17, 2012 at 12:20 am
I always tried to not judge time but to apply pressure with mental action. The ego always wants us to think about it instead of in doubt double your effort.
PTSD can not take a laser guided approach like the breathing track applied to thoughts and the trigger moments. Stop judging, say affirmations out loud and change your self talk. That is very specific and even the breathing track is so much quicker than the traditional model.
All you need to do is improve your focus and apply it by observing thoughts and triggers.