C-PTSD & Holidays

Painting by Peter Hutter

Many holidays stir the thought demons from childhood trauma.  Complex PTSD appears vividly when abusers and people connected to them are around us.  Attending family functions can bring guilt, shame and confusion into our consciousness.  Even if you are no longer in contact with family, the idea of a family function can trigger.

It is important to recognize these times are hard.  Using the multiple skills or healing tools you have developed is important.

The best way to prepare is by being gentle with yourself and practicing taking care of yourself.  Be easy and use your mindful tools of staying present to evaluate your options. Keeping focused will help tremendously right now.  Don’t attend any family functions that interfere with your healing.

Healing happens best when you can stay calm and directed for a while.  Maybe the situation harbors real danger or offers nothing but sadness for you.  Accept this as true and observe it without adding any comparison or judgment to it.

Give yourself a break and know there is no failure, shame or harm.

Be aware and healing will happen constantly.  Good Luck this Easter.

3 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by alex on April 23, 2011 at 10:38 pm

    Love the referrences to being good to oneself at Easter – being gentle, easy and mindfull always qualitiy reminders – holidays be can be filled with many sided emotions AND the photo, ONCE AGAIN, speaks many words such as the possibility of progressing into a purpleness – Many Thanks, Alex

  2. Posted by fikadax on April 25, 2011 at 6:57 am

    Thanks for focused me on being good to my self for the next three month. I have never “heard” that words before!

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